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It's Okay To Wait by CupcakeAttack85 It's Okay To Wait by CupcakeAttack85
Okay 1st things 1st I'm NOT a virgin myself

I did this for a friend who is old fashion. Yes she still a virgin but she doesn't go around telling people she is, like most of these girls do now a days.

When people do find out she is they try to get her to have sex with some random guy and they all get mad at her for not doing so. She once told me a guy broke up with her because she wouldn't get in bed with her...i felt bad for her.

We talked over the weekend a lot and sex was one of many subjects we talked about and she told me her reason in waiting to to make sure the guy she was with was there to stay for her not for just one thing. She said too my of friends have gotten in bed with guys that's promised to marry them and the world but after that night they break up with them and leave and then the girl finds out she pregnant and the guy wants nothing to do with her and the baby.

She for her waiting is one of many ways to see if the guy truly loves her and is gonna be with her and be true to her.

Even though I'm a non-virgin i respect that opinion of hers. Honestly wasn't gonna make this stamp because of the virgin non virgin war going on here on DA. It's a stupid fight honestly. People are gonna do what they gonna do, but it's our actions which define us of who we are, not how much sex you have. With so much pressure around she starting to think her plan is a bad idea and should just give up (which I told her not to) I like her plan, I wish i was a little smarter when it was my 1st time.

We got enough virgin non-virgin war going on TV, movies, books etc etc it's all over the place I can understand why some people lash out about it and want to state their opinion.

I'm leaving comments on, but if you leave a comment wanting to start and fight/debate or something along the lines rude I will ignore it, or mark it as spam

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alvittanyallday Featured By Owner Apr 11, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
i 100% agree with this stamp and i have a bf and we both agree with sex should be for marigge i rly hate the fact that lots of girls in my hight school are pregnet and it bugs me so bad -.- idk why people cant just wait i mean rly :/
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YolandaChapa Featured By Owner May 8, 2012
I just read that this is a five-month-late comment, but here we go:

I'm with her about waiting, but I respect if any other thinks otherwise. And they shouldn't talk like that to her. Would they stop having sex just because someone says so? No, because they like to live that way, and it's fine. They need to be in her shoes, and everyone who knows someone with different ideas.

I'm not sure if this would help, but when someone asked me why I stay virgin (someone really close that was having second thoughts about it), I told her that for me having sex is an expression of love, and I think one of the best gifts you could give to your wife/husband, it's that intimate, new experience of your first time. That will be one of a kind, special conection that you will not have with anyone else. Besides, you don't really need it to know someone loves you, having words, and affection, and little details. And (this is a very personal point of view, because I know that's not true to all people) I think that when you have sex as often as you breathe, sex will be then very superficial or, like a drug, you just will want to have more regardless with whom or when you have it, and it will be no special anymore.

I hope this doesn't mind you in any way, I just think that maybe she need someone with the same opinion to let her know that she's not alone and her desition is not wrong, it's just something we choose to experience after we find the one. I hope this help her :).
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CupcakeAttack85 Featured By Owner May 8, 2012
It don't bother me one bit :D I'll be sure to show her this comment :)

I wish i would have waited but then again I haven't had sex since that girl broke up with me which has been about two years...next time I have sex will be with someone I know be with me for life.
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YolandaChapa Featured By Owner May 8, 2012
That's a nice desition :).
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CristalMomoStar Featured By Owner Jan 25, 2012  Student General Artist
Who tries to hook her up with men? that's awful. I'm don't necessarily think you have to be married to have sex, but just randomly hooking up can be dangerous. And if they know she wants to wait until marriage they should respect that.
She's got a good reason too, I think that would be my reason for waiting (I really don't have any sex drive, so I can't really say...).
I hope you don't mind that I posted this (if you take it off that's fine) I'm really laid back about the subject, but if this comment didn't come off that way then I'm sorry.
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CupcakeAttack85 Featured By Owner Jan 25, 2012
no offense taken

Yeah I agree it awful they way some people do her, it's effected her badly she needs to surround herself with friends that aren't gonna do her that way (like me and my brother :) ) the way people talk around her she starting to think a virgin being a bad things...some people don't know she is until they ask her who was the last person she slept with (yeah met the friends that did that to her ) then they have a heart attacked when they find out. People disappoint me now a days with the way they behave, I know when she finds the right guy and marrys him it just might me worth it in the end. Makes me wish I would have waited......

I'm pretty laid back on sex myself
Thanks for the comment :)
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CristalMomoStar Featured By Owner Jan 25, 2012  Student General Artist
No problem, and please tell your friend to stay strong. Don't let her get fooled into anything she doesn't want to do :) (I have friends like this so it hits close to home)
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CupcakeAttack85 Featured By Owner Jan 25, 2012
I will let her know :)
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mliagurl2 Featured By Owner Jan 28, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I love this so much. she is making a good choice. cause its just not worth it. :nod: =D
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WWERockStar Featured By Owner Jan 25, 2012
thank you for making this Kalen :love:
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